In life we fail more than we succeed. In order to reach our goals, it’s important to learn how failure can actually be good for success.
Success and failure often go hand in hand. In order to reach a successful goal, most of us have failed time and time again. Rarely are we able to achieve success without failing at least once, if not many. many more times! It’s a part of life, and as adults we know this well. In fact it is said that the more times we have failed in life, the sweeter it’ll be when we finally succeed, that’s IF we haven’t given up. I can certainly tell you that personal experience, succeeding by failing is a fact I just can’t argue against!
FAILURE IS GOOD FOR SUCCESS
Kids certainly don’t know this to be true, especially in sports. Many athletes are prone to just walk away and stop trying if they don’t find success the first time around. As parents we know that it isn’t until they experience failure for themselves that they can enjoy the true bliss that comes with eventual success.
People just aren’t born with this instinct. Babies stack blocks on top of each other and expect them to stay that way. Or like in the case of this cutie that went viral as she tried time and time again to insert a straw into a plastic lid. This didn’t go over very well with her. I think I can definitely relate to her frustration.
1. FAILING ISN’T ALWAYS A BAD THING
The first lesson to teach your athletes that failing can actually be a GOOD thing. Your player may be in a vulnerable state after defeat, but this could be a great opportunity to introduce them to the look at the bright side of things. Have an open dialogue with them on how valuable it can be lose. As an athlete, student, or whatever endeavor they’re taking on, they’ll know what needs work and what they’re doing right. This is a great way to learn how to approach the situation next time. Learning from our mistakes is one of the most clear signs of growing up.
A few years ago my then 7-year-old asked to try Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. It seemed like an odd choice for my bookish, space crazy little one but he was adamant. After a little research looking for an instructor who wouldn’t scare the pants off my little guy, we assured him that it was perfectly ok to tell us if he didn’t like it and attended his first class.
2. TRIAL AND ERROR
Parenting stress is intense – the stakes are terrifyingly high when you are responsible for another life. The small, daily decisions take on pressure. Did he have a bad practice because I didn’t make sure he ate? Did I forget about an assignment? Intellectually, I know that none of these things that feel like they are going wrong will change his life. But, there is still so much pressure to get it right.
3. FAILURE AS A LEARNING OPPORTUNITY
4. FAIL LIKE A BOSS
In order to reach a goal successfully, most of us have had to fail time and time again. Learning to succeed by failing first is the key to failing like a boss!
5. EMBRACING THE LEARNING PROCESS
HOW ELSE CAN WE TEACH OUR KIDS TO EMBRACE THAT FAILURE IS GOOD FOR SUCCESS?